The cases of bullying in schools in Leander and Cedar Park, actually Leander ISD in general, have dramatically risen in the last couple of years! Children who are bullied in school develop a sense of deep fear and frustration that can lead to lifelong psychological problems as they grow older. Bullying statistics show that one out of every ten children that are bullied by classmates in school cry out for help in extreme ways.
This leads too many victims attempting suicide as a result of the harsh bullying they are exposed to at school. Bullying has more than doubled in a matter of just a few years in our schools, despite the attempts of the school district to handle the situation with home grown programs or programs that fit there “daycare” criteria. It would seem prudent for individual
schools or entire school systems to partner with martial arts schools to prevent and stop bullying, as that is a specialty of the martial arts. Unfortunately, schools are always reluctant to partner with these private businesses, even though martial arts centers have the actual answers that are needed to fix the problem.
In order to stop bullying in their child’s life, it is very important for parents to first develop a relationship of friendship with their child so that if they are being bullied at school, they feel comfortable enough to come up to the parents and discuss the problem. If your relationship with your son or daughter is not open enough, they may never be comfortable enough to talk to you about this or anything else. In addition to this, once they discuss their problem with you, try not to over react to it. Be calm, listen to whatever they are saying, and then start looking for a solution. They must feel that you love them and no matter how they reacted to the problem that they were not “wrong” or that they handled it like a “wimp”. The full love, support, and backing of the parents or guardians are mandatory at this moment to ensure your child’s psychological and physical recovery.
Once they know that you have their back, start searching for solutions to give them the tools to defend themselves mentally, emotionally, and physically if necessary. They must also know that you will be confidentially discussing this with
their teachers, principle, and any other adult necessary so that you have created a support team to protect your child, and that the bully will not know of this causing your child to be labeled as a tattle tale.
Frankly, parents, teachers, and other adults cannot always be there to stop or catch bullies. Therefore, the best
solution to stop bullying NOW is to give your child the basic training of Martial Arts.
Martial Arts exercises can help children in getting out the inner frustration and channeling it into more constructive things; as our child is bullied, they start developing a sense of inferiority within themselves. Karate and Martial Arts exercises target this negative energy and convert it into positive energy through proper training and self-control techniques. If you have the misconception that karate and the martial arts are all about kicking and punching then you need to visit a good karate school in your area to become educated as to the character development that happens through their programs.
In addition to managing your child’s negative energy, karate also teaches your child to defend himself in troubled situations like the bullying in schools. It gives your child the self-confidence he needs to face the world which builds a strong character and positive personality. Martial Arts schools offer different kinds of training programs. Some schools are “tournament focused” while others are “self defense and character focused”. There are day, afternoon, and evening prgrams to choose from. Some schools offer after school programs with transportation provided, as well as daycamp and summer camp training programs. Summer training programs are AWESOME as they prepare for those bullying him at school as soon as the fall classes commence.
Martial Arts are fun to learn if you have a good instructor. While getting your child registered, make sure that the instructor is knowledgeable, fun, and understanding. It may not even be a bad idea to join karate classes yourself, so that your child knows that you are there for them at all times. At the end of the day, it is your actions that your child will believe the most, so speak and act with love towards them and keep on telling them that they are the most important thing in your life! Bullying in schools is not something that will go away on its own so please don’t wait.
At all of our locations including Leander, Cedar Park, Abilene, and West Bloomfield Michigan we teach your child how to not be a victim of bully. Contact Us or come by and watch a class in person and see what you think.